I Hate Valentine's Day!

I'll be honest. I hate Valentines Day with a royal passion. I always have. I guess it started in grade school when all the kid would exchange valentines cards- you know, those little cards that say To: and From:

I seldom received one and I never really gave any away, either. At that young and impressionable age, to not receive Valentines cards, is it any wonder so many adults have relationship and self esteem problems?

During my teen years, there were the usual high school sweethearts walking through the halls, holding hands, sharing lockers, spending every free moment together, cheering each other on in their separate after school activities. Sure, I dated a few guys. Some really cute ones. But it never felt right.

As teens, we don't know enough about the world, or ourselves for that matter, to fully understand that it is okay to be alone; we do not have to be constantly linked to another being to define ourselves as a person. Unfortunately, society has other ideas and too many young people are gullible enough to believe those ideas.

I made it through my teens having received few Valentines, though I so wanted something- anything! By the time I turned nineteen and joined the Army, all I wanted was someone to be with; someone for me.

Years later as I look back in reflection, I ask myself why I wanted someone so bad. The answer I kept coming back to was that I had not taken the time to really get to know me.

In the Army, I met a fellow soldier and married him. During those first few months, I really adored him and wanted to marry him. We hit a rough patch, and he went back to an old girlfriend. My feelings for him began to wane, partly because we were on separate Army posts, and partly because I was finally beginning to learn about myself.

When his relationship soured, he came back, and I did take him back. I found I still loved him, and still wanted to marry him, but at that point, I would have married Hugh Heffner had he asked.

We married, and our relationship changed in that moment. Four months later- our first Valentines as husband and wife- found us simply exchanging token cards and grunting at each other, even though I was pregnant with our first child.

Fast forward, three years and another child- and woman- later, and we divorced. I was so relieved! Sure, I was hurt at being so easily replaced but by then I realized I really didn't want to be married to him, or anyone.

Still, as each inevitable roll of the calendar to yet another Valentine's Day, I found myself feeling down, hurt, sometimes angry, fed up. Why, I would ask myself- why? I had determined since my divorce, and several subsequent failed short relationships that I prefer to be alone, and that, due to the high strung and insanely neurotic and jealous person I am, need to be alone- and stay alone. I need solitude to sort through the constant chaos which swirls neverending through my mind, and to have to worry about someone else and what they're doing, well... no thanks.

So why do I hate Valentine's Day so much? The answer is quite simple, really.

Society dictates that relationships are everything. If you aren't with someone, you're no one; you must not be worthy if you cannot attain and/or sustain a relationship.

I'm proof positive that's just not so. But when I think back to my grade school days when the other boys and girls were gleefully reading each coveted Valentine's card as I sat at my desk, lonely and alone, and to my high school days, watching sweethearts be sweet with each and wanting that too, the memories of how I felt during those times wash over me anew.

When we don't receive Valentine's gifts, we're made to feel no one loves us, or cares for us. Even for a hermit like me, it feels good knowing that maybe someone cares. But I don't need a hastily bought gift or wilted flowers, or a generic card that a million other women will also receive to let me know someone does care for me.

And I certainly don't want- nor expect- anyone to dig deep in their pockets to remember they love me for one day, yet forget about letting me know that for the rest of the year!

When my animals lick my hand, and when my children wrap their arms around my neck and hug me tight, every day is Valentine's Day and that's all I need.

LifeWriter is an author on http://www.Writing.Com/ which is a site for Writers.

She writes frequently on issues of child abuse, mental health and animal issues.

Valentines Flowers Tips for Guys on the Go

It's tough to be romantic when you're on the go, working 12 hours a day, and juggling mulitple priorities. No wonder that on a romance scale of 1 to 10, only 19% of women rate their boyfriend, husband, or significant other a 7 or higher. But, wait guys; there's help. Even if you're on the go, you can boost your romance quotient this Valentines silver gifts -- with flowers. Here's how.

Don't fret about choosing the right gift.

Flowers are still the most desired gift from an admirer and to express love. They're personal, romantic, and according to researchers at Rutgers University, actually raise peoples spirits. In one study with 147 women of varying ages, those who received flowers smiled significantly more than those who received other gifts. Fresh, colorful flowers evoke happy feelings. Other studies indicate that flowers actually improve emotional health and make people feel more connected. According to professor Jeannette Haviland-Jones, PhD, "The phrase 'stop and smell the roses' may have a touch of genius in it."

Order early.

Sending sterling silver flowers is fast and easy! There are wonderful local florists in virtually every town, as well as dozens of leading online florists that deliver nationwide. And, ordering only takes a few minutes. So, don't let your busy schedule get in the way. Just pick up the phone or shop online. But, remember, Valentines is the "Superbowl" of flower holidays, with five to ten times the normal volume of deliveries. So, for the best selection, service, and pricing, it's best to order early. You'll be glad you did.

Sending flowers to where she works?

That's a great idea. silver Valentines day gifts can brighten her whole week, she'll be reminded of you every time she looks at them, and co-workers comments are a big plus, too. But, here's a helpful tip from Romeos in the know. With million of deliveries on Valentine's Day, flowers can arrive almost anytime. So, play it safe. Ask for delivery the day before Valentine's. That way your gift will be even more of a pleasant surprise and is sure to be enjoyed throughout all of Valentine's Day. In other words, you look like you were planning ahead and avoid any risk of your gift looking like a last-minute afterthought.

There's more to Valentines than just red roses.

While beautiful long-stem red roses are still the most popular Valentine's flower gift, there are lots of other options for every taste and budget. Many women prefer pretty pastel roses in pink, peach, yellow, or assorted spring colors. They can make you stand out from the crowd. And, almost half of all Valentine's bouquets aren't roses at all; they're lush mixed bouquets and spring flowers such as tulips. Choosing something unique can show you remember your sweetheart's favorite color or flower. Your favorite florist will have a great selection and can quickly help you with the best choice.

Remember flowers after Valentine's too.

What's the best way for a man to make a lasting impression on a woman? Research shows that the answer to making a memorable impact is right under his nose -- with flowers. Ninety-two percent of women can remember the last time they received flowers, and 89% agree that receiving flowers makes them feel special. "If the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, then the pathway to a woman's heart is through her other senses," says Rebecca Cole, of Discovery Channel's Surprise By Design. "Flowers are a sensual gift that can express any emotion so simply - with just a little knowledge and a phone call to your florist." And, flowers given for no special reason may be the most special of all. So, light a fire with flowers this Valentine's. And, keep it burning with a surprise gift of flowers anytime throughout the year.

By John E. Williams courtesy of 1-800-FLORALS. Award-winning same-day and next-day flowers delivery throughout the USA and Canada plus international flowers by wire. Since 1923.

The History of Valentine's Day

Many people try to complain that Valentine's Day is nothing more than a "Hallmark holiday" dreamed up by businesses seeking to profit from the desperate masses seeking love. However, nothing could be further from the truth. Valentine's Day traces its history back to ancient Rome, long before any such businesses started looking towards their bottom line.

In ancient Rome, February 14th was declared to be a celebration for Juno, queen of all the Roman gods and goddesses. Boys and girls who were segregated throughout the year would come together and draw names from a jar, and would pair up with the chosen person throughout the Festival of Lupercalia. Often, as a result of these pairings, the couples would fall in love and sometimes get married.

There are many legends of how Valentine's Day came to be at this point in Ancient Rome. Some believe that St. Valentine helped prisoners of harsh Roman prisons escape and thus was imprisoned by the Roman Empire. This legend continues that, while in prison, St. Valentine fell in love with his jailor's daughter and began to send her written love letters signed "From your valentine."

The prevailing legend is that St. Valentine was a Roman priest who began to secretly marry couples against the direct orders of Emperor Claudius II. Claudius believed that he was having difficulties recruiting soldiers for his immense military because the young men didn't want to leave their sweethearts at home. To combat this problem, he declared that both engagements and marriages were illegal. St. Valentine eventually was executed for his violation of Claudius' orders, but his spirit lived on throughout Rome.

When the Roman Empire fell and the Church became more prevalent throughout medieval Europe, they abolished all pagan rituals and celebrations including the Festival of Lupercalia. However, the people didn't want to give up their traditions of boys drawing girls' names. Therefore, the Church declared February 14th to be a holiday in celebration of St. Valentine, the priest who secretly married so many couples.

However, the boys were then told to draw names of saints instead of girls. The boys were then to emulate the life of their chosen saint for the following year. The people continued this for a short period of time, and then reverted back to choosing names of girls instead of the saints.

By the 15th Century, St. Valentines Day was celebrated with lovers singing their romantic feelings to their chosen ones. People often wrote sonnets and other love poems to give to their romantic interests. By the end of this century, these sonnets were written on ornate paper and became the first valentines. In fact, the oldest surviving valentine was written in 1415 from the Duke of Orleans to his wife. It was written while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London and is on display in the British Museum in London.

Soon, valentine brands became known for their unique properties. Fraktur Valentines were known for their ornate, medieval-style lettering. A piece of paper was folded and cut into an elaborate, lacey pattern for Cutout Valentines. Puzzle Purse Valentines were complex puzzles of folded paper, allowing different portions of the valentine to be exposed at different times. Oilpaper stencils were used to paint Theoren Valentines. And Pinprick Valentines were made by, naturally, pricking a piece of paper repeatedly to transform the paper into a lace of sorts.

By the 18th Century, Valentine's Day became extremely popular throughout Great Britain and lovers began to exchange token gifts alongside their valentine cards. Amongst the commoners, this gift was often a small sweet that could be obtained with meager funds. In the upper classes, the gifts became more and more extravagant and included large boxes of chocolates, sweets, and even jewels.

In the 1840's, Esther A. Howland began her company producing valentines in the United States. She became known as the Mother of the Valentine, producing beautiful cards of colored paper, lace, and ornate lettering. By the late 19th Century, valentines were produced in factories by Norcross, later to be known as Hallmark.

These factory-produced valentines grew to encompass more than just declarations of undying love and devotion. As society changed and moved away from formal courtship, the valentines began to cover more light-hearted messages of humor and affection. These valentines became even more widely accepted as people expanded their circles of friends and companions.

Today, Valentine's Day is celebrated as a holiday honoring romance. Boys and girls no longer pick names out of a jar, but instead exchange valentines with token messages of affection. In the tradition of Great Britain, children often exchange small sweets, while adult lovers give each other large cases of sweets and gifts.

While the exact origins of Valentine's Day are slightly murky, there is no doubt that it is not just a holiday from the modern times. Instead, it is a chance to both honor the history and modernity of romance and affection.

Jane S. Roseen is the Owner and President of Harmony Sweets. Harmony Sweets is an international gourmet chocolate shop focusing on individual consumers purchasing gourmet chocolates from around the world for their friends and relatives, corporate gift-giving, and wholesale sales to retail outlets across North America.

Website: http://www.harmonysweets.com

Valentine's Day - A Romantic Peak Or A Commercial Basement?

Every year there is a surge in romantic interest as February, the Month of Hearts, approaches, and the scent of Valentine's Day begins to waft in the air. When it comes to reality, though, how much of that surge is genuinely about romance? Is it not all a commercial exercise designed to rake in the profits?

I do not think anyone can argue that commercial interests contribute greatly to the publicity that surrounds Valentine's Day. You see it everywhere from Christmas onwards; the Valentine's cards, the Valentine's chocolates with their heart shaped boxes and pictures of roses, plus of course all the advertisements for the roses themselves and how you must book early for that Valentine evening meal.

The commercial side of Valentine's can appear so overwhelming you may be persuaded to believe that it is nothing to do with love and romance at all, but purely about making money; that the hearts and the roses are nothing more than artificial symbols of a romantic world that no longer exists.

With much of Western society having a hardened veneer, where underneath relationships fall apart with a puff of wind, and divorce is almost built into marriage, anyone can be forgiven for taking such a cynical view. However, dismissing the whole Valentine Day experience as nothing but commercial is far too simplistic, and to do so is to deny oneself a far richer experience: that of genuine romance and love.

Any commercial venture only succeeds if there is a demand, and Valentine's Day has been a commercial success for many years. Before then, the Valentine's tradition itself had evolved over many centuries, long before commerce became the apparent driving force behind it. So where has the modern demand come from for an event such as Valentine's Day?

Love, attraction, obsession, and romance are as old as the hills, and are integral to the human constitution. While many modern people may claim that they prefer to be alone and do not need anyone else, do not need love and romance in their lives, if they were truly honest with themselves they may say something very different. It is not "macho" to publicly need love, affection and romance, so many hide from their own truth, that they probably yearn for the love of another as much as the most openly romantic.

Others, though, reflect as much desire for romantic love as any man or woman over the centuries, and it is deeply natural to do so. They reflect those desires as they go searching for romantic fiction, love poems and true love stories by the million. If they do have love in their lives as Valentine's Day comes around, then they are well prepared to make the most of it; to indulge in the romantic image with their own twist of reality and desire.

Love and romance have not died and will never die. Some may shy away in fear of the pain of a failed or a tragic romance; but others dive in head first, not fearful that their love will turn out to be as tragic as Romeo and Juliet. Such people provide the never ending demand for a Valentine's Day that transcends the commercial and explores all the bright and dark corridors of romance. In other words, experience life to the full, and risk the pain and heartache to achieve the ecstasy.

This Valentines Day article was written by Roy Thomsitt. Enjoy a good romance? You can also read Roy's Romeo and Juliet story.

Easy Valentine's Day Jewelry Ideas for Every Budget

For Valentine's Day, few gifts will make her heart pitter-patter more than the gift of jewelry. It's the fool-proof way to make a good impression and show her how you feel about her. And whether you're hesitant about buying jewelry because you're working with a modest budget, or money is not an object, there are dozens of options for finding the perfect Valentine's Day jewelry gift for that special woman in your life.

Below, we cover a spectrum of ideas that will make her heart sparkle.

Modest - Less than $100

If your budget is $100 or less - even $50 or less - you don't need to fear the jewelry store. There are plenty of options to match every woman's taste and style. A sterling sliver charm bracelet, locket or heart-tag bracelet are beautiful selections that echo the theme of Valentine's Day.

If you want a gift that includes some sort of stone, and you know her birthday month, you can get a necklace or earrings with her birthstone. Or, you can search for that unique gift that will always remind her of you, such as a miniature Hershey kiss necklace or a locket with a picture of the two of you in it. Add some chocolates and flowers, and you have truly captured the essence of Valentine's Day for her.

Moderate - $100-$500

If you have a little more money to spend, you have a few more options. In this range, you can find everything from a modest pair of gold earrings to a diamond engagement ring. Few things are more romantic than a marriage proposal on Valentine's Day - so if you've been thinking about proposing, this may be the best time to do it.

A pair of diamond stud earrings are a sure winner - I rarely see a return on this gift. A personalized piece of jewelry with engraving will also make her heart melt - whether it's a ring with a loving, yet brief, message of love with one of her favorite stones or it's a bracelet or locket with her initials on it. A personalized gift reflects thoughtfulness - a key sentiment for Valentine's Day. Lastly, you can purchase a jewelry set - stud earrings in her birthstone or diamonds with a matching solitaire pendant.

Magniloquent - $500 or more

When you have the budget to buy whatever she wants for Valentine's Day, your best bet is to find something that is over-the-top unique - something you know her friends won't have. If you're looking for a gift that will evoke shrieks of delight and that she'll proudly be showing off for months, diamonds are the easiest route to go.

And she'll absolutely love a fine jewelry gift that combines the timeless beauty of diamonds with a heart - the signature symbol of Valentine's Day. The diamond heart pendant is always an elegant choice, and beautifully captures the expression of love. The tennis bracelet is a classic gift, but there are many different combinations of diamonds, heart pendants and charms that can make a beautiful bracelet gift. Also, combining colored gems - rubies, sapphires, emeralds and others - with diamonds, whether it's a ring, pair of earrings, bracelet or necklace, can create a timeless, treasured gift.

Finding the right jewelry gift does not have to break your budget, but does require some looking around to find the right jewelry store for you. Valentine's Day jewelry, like jewelry for any other occasion, is a very personal gift. When going through the purchasing process, you need a comfortable, low-pressure environment so that you can take the time to find the right gift for her. The most romantic day of the year should be celebrated - and there's no better way to honor your love for her than with a gift she'll treasure all year long. Give the gift of fine jewelry.

Ronnie Adolf is president of Adolf Jewelers, a fine jewelry store located in Richmond, Virginia with an inventory of 3,500 pieces and Valentine's Day jewelry for every budget. For more information on Adolf Jewelers, visit: http://www.adolfjewelers.com

How to Pick Perfect Flowers for Valentine's Day

When we say Valentine's day, we really mean beautiful flowers. Each February 14th, people around the world send millions of greeting cards and flowers to their loved ones. Men are searching for Valentines day flowers, and women send Valentines flowers to men as well.

To lovers, red roses are the first and the best choice for Valentine's Day flowers. The relationship you have with your girlfriend affects the color of roses you send. Red roses are generally reserved for longer relationships where the couple is passionately in love. Pink roses are more appropriate for a newer relationship. They symbolize the relationship and happiness, but do not put any pressure on the girl regarding your feelings other than to let her know you really like her. Any color of rose is appropriate, especially if your girlfriend is passionate about a certain color. Primrose, in essence, says that you cannot live without her. Red signifies passion, pink that she is on your mind and white sweetness.

If you are buying flowers for a daughter or a mom, then affectionate and cheerful flowers are more appropriate - wild flowers, tulips, Gerber daisies, or any flower that is a woman's particular favorite. Pink, yellow, orange, or white roses are popular choice and appropriate for a mom or daughter Every woman loves roses, and the alternate colors brighten up the rose as well as show love in a non-romantic way. Red roses are reserved only for romantic relationships.

Men love flowers too. If flowers are not the first thing that comes to mind for a man's gift. the vast majority of men do enjoy receiving Valentine day flowers. The flowers for Valentine's day that are most appropriate for men, regardless of the position the man holds in your life, are flowers that are bright and vibrant in reds, oranges and yellows. Roses, Gerber daisies and carnations are always great choices - not to mention any particular favorite flower the man might have from orchids to a cactus. Of course, if you are sending Valentine's flowers to your husband or boyfriend red roses are just as appropriate for men as they are for women and represent the love and passion in the relationship. Valentine flowers specifically for a dad or a son should show appreciation and thoughtfulness on Valentine's day. Again, bright colored flowers, plants and bonsai trees are also great choices.

Natalie Aranda is a freelance write. She writes about travel, business, family, love. She's working on articles about hairstyles 2006 trends

Valentine's Day Gifts for Your Wife

Men who have been married for awhile may have a great deal of difficulty selecting gifts for their wives on Valentine's Day. They may feel as though they have spent so many Valentine's Day together that they have already bought their wives all of the standard gifts and may have trouble thinking up new and original gift ideas for Valentine's Day.

They may have already bought their wives items such as flowers, candy, lingerie and jewelry and may feel as though repeating these gifts would not be appropriate. However, there are a lot of great gift ideas for men to give to their wives on Valentine's Day. This article will focus on how men can update some of the traditional gift ideas and will also provide some unique gift ideas for men to give their wives on Valentine's Day.

Candy is one of the most popular gifts for men to give to women on Valentine's Day. Men who have given their wives a gift of candy in the past may feel as though it would be inappropriate to give her candy again. However, this is not true. Candy is a gift which is almost always appreciated on Valentine's Day.

There are ways to make candy seem like a more original gift though. Men who normally give their wives a gift of an assortment of chocolates in a heart shaped box can search for other candy options available. For example, they may find chocolate covered strawberries available in a number of unique designs. They can also make a gift of candy more original by making the candy themselves.

Making candy is not difficult and can be a great deal of fun. While some women will always appreciate a gift of candy, she will be more surprised if you make the candy yourself because it shows you put more effort into the gift.

Jewelry is another popular gift idea for men to give to women on Valentine's Day. Men may feel as though once they give their wife a few pieces of jewelry, there is no way to continue giving jewelry. However, this is not true. For example if you previously gave your wife a solitaire ring you might consider giving her a new ring with three stones to reflect the past, the present and your future together. You might even consider having the solitaire ring modified to include the additional stones.

You can also put a unique spin on gifts of jewelry by giving different stones or jewelry of different metals. However, when selecting a gift of jewelry for your wife on Valentine's Day care should be taken to choose items that reflect her taste so you are sure your wife will love the gift and want to wear it often.

If you and your wife have children and excellent gift idea for Valentine's Day is to present your wife with handmade coupons for free afternoons. You will take care of the kids during this time so your wife can go out and relax and enjoy some time to herself. Many women often feel guilty about leaving the children with their husbands to take time for themselves. This type of gift will make her more likely to take some time to get a manicure or do some shopping without feeling guilty because you will be volunteering to watch the kids so your wife will not feel like she is inconveniencing you by asking for some time to herself.

You can make this type of gift even more special by giving your wife a gift certificate to a beauty salon so she can go to get her hair done or have a manicure and pedicure. You can also plan a special activity for the kids while she is gone. For example you might sit with the kids and have them make a gift for their mom while she is gone. This way your wife will have some free time and will also receive a homemade gift from her children.

Ryan Smith is the owner of MyCirclePal.Com, one of the Net's hottest community and social neworking sites! Post your free profile today at http://www.mycirclepal.com/

Buying your man a Valentine's gift needn't be a colourless affair

As each gender breaks out of their more traditional roles, women have become faced with a new problem: what to get their man for Valentine's Day. Finding a gift for your boyfriend or husband on Valentine's Day can be very difficult, especially if he's the sort of guy who has everything he needs! So, what can you get him that's interesting, different and will show him how much you love him? It's important not to get overwhelmed when making your decision.

Of course, there are plenty of options for you to consider. You can always buy him a subscription to his favourite magazine, whether it's a sports magazine or a film subscription. Alternatively, why not buy him a cocktail shaker or a bar set so that you can have fun making drinks together in your home. You might even be surprised to know that a lot of men say they would like to receive flowers on Valentine's Day - so make sure you don't rule out any unconventional choices.

Don't be afraid to buy your man something a little more formal, either. A set of cufflinks, for example, can be an excellent Valentine's Day present. Cufflinks are available in a range of styles and colours in today's high street stores, and no longer represent an uptight or unimaginative gift. For example, plenty of men's fashion retailers on the high-street sell interesting cufflinks in various shapes and sizes, which are sure to make excellent gifts for your husband or boyfriend.

But while it's possible to come up with interesting and unique ideas for men's Valentine's gifts, it's also important to remember that you don't always have to reach for the stars. In fact, the most important part of Valentine's Day is showing your male half how much you care about him; gifts that are thoughtful and considerate are sure to make as much impact as any more extravagant purchase you might make.

For instance, why not make a Valentine's Day gift of men's underwear or men's socks? There are a range of high street stores that offer a selection of colourful men's underwear and a bright range of men's socks, and many dedicated fashion retailers, such as Topman, will run special Valentine's shops in the run-up to February 14th. After all, vivid colours will make any gift worth having - and spending money on underwear or socks for Valentine's day will certainly give you more time and money to spend on more romantic pursuits!

Andrew Regan is a freelance online journalist.

Picking Out a Valentine's Day Card

Believe it or not, picking out a Valentine's Day card can be the most difficult pasrt of this holiday for many. They may worry that the card they select does not properly express their feelings or they may worry that their partner will not understand the card or will think the card is inappropriate.

All of these concerns can make choosing a card for Valentine's Day a very difficult and stressful task. However, this article will provide some useful information for picking out a great Valentine's Day card which your partner is sure to enjoy. Valentine's Day cards can be romantic, humorous or filled with heartfelt emotion. Whichever type of card you select, it is very important to make sure the card is one your partner will appreciate.

When most people think about Valentine's Day, they think of romantic cards filled with words of love. This is a great type of card to give on Valentine's Day for couples who really want to use the holiday as an opportunity to express their love for each other. They may tell each other they love each other every day of the year and they may also show their love through their kind actions throughout the year but Valentine's Day is a great day to give a card which expresses these feelings of love.

If you are planning to give your partner a truly romantic card on Valentine's Day, you have a few options. You can search through card stores for the card which best expresses your feelings for your partner. However, it is important to note that there are many cards available and finding the right one can be difficult.

Those who want to give their partner a really romantic card for Valentine's Day do have other options available to them. They can also purchase a blank card and write your own heartfelt sentiments inside. This is one way to ensure the card you give to your partner really says exactly what you mean.

Other cards available commercially may come close to expressing your feelings but they are not likely to say exactly what you feel. For this reason, writing your own message can be much more special. You can also include a short poem in your card if there is one you feel is appropriate for your current relationship.

Humorous cards are another popular option for Valentine's Day. They can be a great idea for a fun loving couple who doesn't take Valentine's Day so seriously. They may enjoy spending time together on this day but they likely do not think this holiday is the only time to tell someone how much they mean to you.

Humorous Valentine's Day cards can still express a very loving emotion but they will likely do so in a way that is also fun and lighthearted. If you know your partner will appreciate this type of card, it can be an excellent way to express your love on Valentine's Day.

However, there are some concerns with giving a humorous card for Valentine's Day. If you plan to give your loved one a humorous card on Valentine's Day, you should be sure your partner will appreciate this type of card and will not interpret a humorous card as meaning you are not serious about your relationship. This can occur when your partner gives you a very romantic card and you give her a humorous card. Although you may not mean anything negative by giving this type of card, your partner may interpret it this way.

One way to offset this type of reaction is to purchase a humorous card but to include a handwritten note expressing a more romantic and loving sentiment with the card. This way your partner will appreciate the humor in the card but will also understand your true feelings and will not likely be offended by the card.

Ryan Smith is the owner of MyCirclePal.Com, one of the Net's hottest community and social neworking sites! Post your free profile today at http://www.mycirclepal.com/

Valentine's Day Around The World

Whether in the United States of America or in Europe, in the Northern Hemisphere or in the Southern Hemisphere, when it's Valentine's Day, the love quotient will most assumingly be high all over ! Around the world, Valentine's Day is celebrated with a lot of merrymaking and good cheer. However the Valentine's Day customs and traditions vary in different parts of the world and it's really interesting to see how Valentine's Day is celebrated around the world and with what variations.

In America, the custom of giving gifts and cards on Valentine's Day is very popular. From children to adults, siblings to lovers, everyone exchanges gifts and wishes of love on Valentine's Day. Apart from gifts, it is even common to have Valentine's Day parties. These parties generally see a lot of dancing and singing. Romantic dinners, picnics and get-togethers are also common on Valentine's Day in the United States of America. In England, special Valentine's Day songs are sung by kids and they receive gifts of chocolates, fruits or sometimes even cash gifts.

In some parts of England, folks make buns with dry fruits like raisins on Valentine's Day. It is also a popular custom in England to write love poems. These poems are written to honor the patron of love, St. Valentine. Tabloids and magazines overflow with love verses on Valentine's Day in England.

Italians have a custom of getting engaged on Valentine's Day. Some women in Italy also believe that the first man they see on Valentine's Day will be their future husband and so they stand near the window on Valentine's Day morning to see their life-partner walk past in all glory. These apart, on Valentine's Day, shops in Italy sell candies in china jars, tied with red ribbons. These make for favorite Valentine's Day gifts on February 14.

In Denmark, gaekkebrevs (joking letters) are sent out on Valentine's Day in which the senders write light poems and sign their names only in dots. The person receiving the gaekkebrev has to guess who sent it and if it is guessed correctly, then he or she will get an Easter egg from the sender on Easter. Like the Americans, people in Germany and Austria and also give out Valentine's Day gifts, flowers, cards and chocolates to their wives on Valentine's Day.

However in Spain, the tradition is a little different and here, the wives give the presents to their husbands and the husbands give flowers to their wives. In Scotland, there is a festival on Valentine's Day where young men and women write their names on pieces of paper and put them into separate hats, one for men and one for women. Names are drawn out by both parties, but the men, irrespective of the names they have drawn, have to dance with the women who pick them. And a world of dancing and merrymaking follow.

In Australia, the Valentine's Day celebrations resemble those of America. Gifts and flowers are given out to loved ones. It is a heavily publicized event and the shopping malls are decorated and attract a lot of visitors on this day. However, it is not too much of a "festival" in Australia.

In Japan, there is a unique tradition. Women buy a particular type of candy called hon-mei and gift it to the person they are romantically attached to. It can be a crush, boyfriend, fiancé or husband. Then after one month, on March 14 (also known as White Day), the men return the favor by sending candies to all the women who remembered them on Valentine's Day. The candies sent out by the men are generally white because of the name of the day.

In Brazil, there is no such thing as Valentine's Day. However, something like Valentine's Day, "Dia dos Namorados" is celebrated on June 12. On this day lovers gift each other candies, flowers, cards and other love presents.

The Chinese celebrate Valentine's Day on the seventh day of the seventh lunar month. Contrary to the Western custom of giving gifts to the beloved, the young girls make artistic items and offer them to Zhi Nu, the weaving maiden, in prayer for better needlework skills and also for loving husbands. The language of love is universal and no matter where in the world you are in, Valentine's Day is celebrated all around with equal joy and affection.

So wherever you are in the world, make sure you're near to your "world of joy", your beloved and celebrate hand in hand to bring a world of happiness to him/ her.

Sean Carter writes on holidays, Valentine's Day and world events. He is a writer with special interest in ecard industry and writes for 123greetings.com. He is an active blogger at Valentines Day Blog.

The Not-so-Mushy Statistics During Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day. That season of love, romance, and more love. For many, Valentine's Day is a mad rush act of booking the perfect restaurant, ordering the perfect arrangement of jaunty roses, and wrapping that perfect, extravagant Valentine gift. While for some, the season of hearts passes by quietly, unceromoniously, just like any other day.

Valentine's Day has often been criticised as just an excuse for consumerism, an opportunity for businesses. Consequently, the well-meaning tradition of sending Valentine cards has also been unfairly stained by cynics everywhere, as if it is Hallmark's fault that people are only sending cards perfunctorily, without thought at all, but just to get over the holiday. Indeed, Valentine's Day is the second largest card-exchanging holiday next to Christmas, making Hallmark the unmistakable industry leader.

Half of the U.S. population celebrates Valentine's Day by purchasing at least one greeting card, according to Hallmark. And last year, according to an MSNBC report, Americans spent as much as 13.7 billion last Valentine's Day 2006, up 22 percent from just five years ago.

Other Valentine's Day statistics are: 85% of all Valentine cards are bought by women. 73% of flowers are bought by men, and only 27% are by women. Chocolate and candy sales reach profits of $1,011 billion during Valentines.

These are all good Valentine statistics, of course. It just means people are willing to go through any lengths just to make their loved ones feel special on Valentine's Day, whether that may be in the form of yet another box of chocolates, yet another card in an envelope, or yet another bunch of flowers. After all, it's still the thought that matters.

But Valentine's Day also has its share of not-so-mushy statistics. Approximately one in four Americans do not celebrate the holiday at all. And 15% of American women (and even men) send flowers to themselves on Valentine's Day.

While the most widely-sent Valentine gifts have always been Valentine's cards, chocolates, flowers, and dinner out, a new line of unlikely Valentine gifts are gaining popularity in the market, especially in the Internet. Not another virtual Valentine card, but what online psychics are offering: psychic readings, horoscopes, numerology reports, and tarot card readings. Certainly, they are not your usual Valentine's Day gifts, and that exactly is the point.

They are insightful, helpful, and for a mere 10$ for instance, for just a ten minute psychic phone call, they are quite priceless. What is more is that they certainly last longer than just chocolates and flowers. For best results, though, one can send flowers and chocolates (and cards too!) alongside a psychic reading for their loved ones.

At the end of the day, however one chooses to celebrate Valentines day, what matters is that people have space in their hearts for love the whole year round.

Neoli Marcos writes for PsychicGuild, a world-renowned online psychic service providing free astrology report, dream interpretation and more. When he's not welding words on paper, he can be found at the beach carving washable poems.

Valentine's Day Family Activities

Most people hold this view that Valentine's Day is a day for lovers all around the world. But under no circumstances is the day confined only to lovers and it would be unjust to consider it so. Valentine's Day very much includes everyone who shares the bond of love. And, therefore, it of course includes the family and a good share of family activities as well.

As a matter of fact, no occasion of love is complete without the family, without their unending love and affection. Same holds true for Valentine's Day. So here are a few Valentine's Day family activities that might help you to have an idea as to how Valentine's Day is also celebrated around the home and hearth with one's kin. Well, there are many interesting Valentine's Day family activities that you can indulge in on February 14 with your family and folks. To suggest some, wouldn't it be a great idea to throw a Valentine's Day feast and rejoice in your loved ones' company ?

You can make the entire family lend a hand in preparing the cute items especially for the day and grooving up the Valentine's Day menu. Never be discouraged about 'too many cooks'--it's fun working together on such a sweet occasion and you're sure to come out with the perfect, unspoiled 'broth' ! So gear up to butter your folks pink on Valentine's Day with all your love and care. This is one family activity which will never leave you tired at the end of it. The only thing it leaves behind is sweet memories of quality time spent with the family.

Now, if creativity is at your command, you can give your loved ones a heartwarming time on Valentine's Day with your own crafted cards and gifts. Creative sessions are often great Valentine's Day family activities, tested through time. Children take great pleasure in making Valentine's Day cards for their teachers, parents and friends. Some older children can get an edge in innovation over the young ones by making little paper cupids, valentine gift boxes tied up with red ribbons or cute candy baskets fringed with little red hearts.

Grown-ups can keep a vigil on the activities as they work their way to create wonderful Valentine's Day cards and show-pieces. And if you're in a groovier family, what are you waiting for ? Have a party ! There's no end to your Valentine's Day family activities in this case. Begin with a few cool Valentine's Day special games and you can follow it up with a nostalgic family-flashback by going through the family album. It indeed is a special feeling to walk down memory lane on Valentine's Day with all your loved ones around. But whatever you do with your family and no matter what you're planning with them this Valentine's Day, make sure it's over-the-top on February 14 ! And don't forget to pamper your dear ones with some sweet hugs and wish them a 'Happy Valentine's Day' too !

Now, one of the most fun-stuffed Valentine's Day family activities would be to go on a cool picnic with all your folks. What do you say ? Having a picnic is an awesome way to spend time together with one's family, isn't it ? So on Valentine's Day, get the whole family together--kids, parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins and pets and have a happy day-out ! You pep up all the picnic activities with some funny or interesting Valentine's Day games and have some heart-shaped sandwiches and cookies while you sing and dance by the campfire. Sounds fun, doesn't it ?

So be innovative this February 14 and have a lovely family time. You will surely discover a great way to celebrate this day of love and bond with your family. Love is, after all, all about having fun and bonding, right ? So just get going.

Sean Carter writes on holidays, Valentine's Day and world events. He also writes on family, relationships, celebrations, religion, love and friendship. He is a writer with special interest in ecard industry and writes for 123greetings.com. He is an active blogger at valentinesday4all.blogspot.com

Valentine's Day Gifts On A Budget

How many times have you found that perfect Valentine's day gift but lost your "heart" when you saw the price? Not everyone has $50 extra for that beautiful bouquet of roses.

Here are some meaningful but inexpensive ideas for a Valentine's Day gift that is sure to win the heart of your sweetie for the rest of the year.

Hand Written Love Letter Write each other a hand written love letter letting each other know all the reasons why you love each other. Warning! You will need a tissue when reading the one that will be written for you. This is one of those gifts that will be cherished for a lifetime.

Valentine's Day Once A Month For A Year Think of twelve nice things to do or acts of service gifts you can give to your valentine. Write these twelve ideas on decorated paper or 3X5 cards. Buy a nice basket or pretty box at a craft store or decorate a box you have around the house. Put all twelve cards in the box or basket and each month starting with February 14th of course, have your sweetheart pick one the acts of service cards and do what is on the card. You will both begin to look forward the the 14th of every month and will stretch Valentine's Day out throughout the whole year.

Start Your Day With Love On the morning of Valentine's Day, wake up before your valentine and make a breakfast with all his/her favorite fixings. If you are making pancakes, make then heart shaped (practice this before the big day) and add a drop or two of red food coloring in the pancake batter.

Candle Light Dinner At Home This is similar to the morning idea in the fact that you will be cooking. Make your valentine's favorite dinner and serve it to him or her by candlelight. (Even if this means that you wait to eat until the munchkins have gone to bed. It can be difficult to prepare a large meal after a long day but you both have to eat, right?

Valentine's Day gifts do not have to ruin your budget in order for them to be meaningful. These are just a few ways in which you can let that special someone know just how special he/she is to you. Here's to a wonderful Valentine's Day!

Dawn Holland is a wife, a WAHM of 3 boys and an RN. She teaches families how to build meaningful traditions that aren't expensive or difficult. To find out more about family traditions and gift giving, go to http://www.FamilyFromTheHearth.com For personalized children's books and personalized baby gifts, go to http://www.BooksFromTheHearth.com

5 Ways to Be Romantic this Valentines Day

Did you know that most people don't know how to give a good romantic gift for Valentines Day when people expect it more than ever. But , with a little creativity, Valentines shopping is easy to do

"Every year people are faced with the same dilemma, Valentines Day is supposed to be fun and romantic, but more often than not it just turns out being a total disaster."

A simple way to improve your gift giving effectiveness is to choose a few all time favorites as well as a few that are extra spicy!

To help out this Valentines day, allow me to suggest 5 simple ways to make this Valentines Day the best ever.

1. Many women don't want chocolates, many women trying to manage their weight hate it because they feel guilty that it will make them fat when all they want is to feel sexy.

2. The 2 words I love you used at anytime or many times throughout the day can be priceless if heartfelt

3. A vacation or ticket to an exotic getaway really says "you mean a lot to me and I enjoy spending time with you!"

4. Flowers- They never go out of style, even if a woman tells you she doesn't want or like flowers a careful selection of her favorite colors in flowers can reunite lost love in a big way

5. The most romantic and intimate gift is exotic and unique lingerie. This is a Playful and surefire way to capture her heart, along with a beautiful bouquet of flowers your gift becomes irresistible.

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5 Ways To Having The Happiest Valentine's Day Ever! (Even When You're Alone)

The thought of Valentine's Day conjures up romantic evenings, a candlelight dinner, and long walks with your loved one. It is, without a doubt the most romantic day of the year. So how could you possibly be expected to enjoy Valentine's Day when you're alone? Well, while it might not be all hearts and flowers, you can still spread the message of Valentine's Day: Love.

Over the years, I've interviewed numerous people and asked them what their favorite Valentine's Day memory was. Surprisingly, very few couples actually mentioned a gift or a special night out. In fact, most of the people I interviewed remembered their special Valentine's Day by things they did for others. Gifts they gave, whether they were store bought or home made that gave them the feeling of joy and happiness.

A heartwarming Valentine's Day for Jacque from California, was when she was in charge of bringing little treats for her daughter's 3rd grade class. After agonizing on what to do, she decided to make the extra firm red Jell-O, and cut them into heart shapes. After running to the store to get more mix, and spending a lot of time cutting out the heart shapes, she was frustrated and wondered why she ever signed up for the job in the first place. Was this a big mistake? When she passed out the treats in school, the kids' eyes lit up, and their sweet little voices filled the room with laughter and excitement. All the kids loved it! Jacque remembers feeling incredible that day. Her heart was glowing with happiness to see how much those kids loved her little treats.

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our daily chores, that we often forget that children need to be remembered too. Teenagers often feel left out on Valentine's Day, but a handsome Colorado man gave two giggling teenagers a Valentine's Day they will never forget. Geoff was working on a resort property trimming trees, and noticed there were two smitten teenage girls sitting on the balcony watching him while he was working. Geoff knew he would be finished on February 13th, and thought he would he would surprise them with a dozen red roses on Valentine's Day, and signed it, the tree trimming guy. The girls were thrilled to get flowers on Valentines Day, and were still talking about it four years later! Geoff ranks that day as his all time favorite Valentine's Day!

Making someone happy (especially when it's unexpected) has a euphoric effect on you too. It's happiness shared twice. Is it possible to have a happy Valentine's Day even when you are breaking up? If you have a sister like Linda, you can. Linda's sister was going through a divorce in February, and she was heartbroken and distraught. On that Valentine's Day, Linda secretly sent her flowers at her office, and signed the card, "From your Secret Admirer." As soon as her sister received them she called Linda and said, "Oh my God, you will never believe what just happened, I got these beautiful flowers today, but I have no idea who they are from!" Linda had all she could do to keep from laughing, and giving away her little secret. Linda's sister went on to say that the entire office was trying to figure out who her secret admirer could be. Linda was happy that she could give her sister a happy Valentine's Day even when she was facing unhappy times.

Yes, it is possible to have a great Valentine's Day, even when things are looking a little dismal. Here are a few ways you can share your love this holiday.

5 Ways to the Happiest Valentine's Day Ever!

1. Send a heartfelt Valentine Card to someone who has really inspired you and tell them how much they mean to you. 2. Make a homemade Valentine Card and send it to your favorite relative you haven't seen in a while. 3. Send flowers or candy to someone who doesn't have a sweetheart, and sign it anonymous. 4. Make a Valentine's Basket and send it to a family that has gone through a difficult time and sign it, From Your Guardian Angel. 5. Take your little niece, nephew, or cousin out for ice cream.

Giving is the fastest way to feel good about yourself. It doesn't have to be expensive, even a single hand picked flower will do. Anything coming from the heart will surely be felt and appreciated. It's two gifts in one. One is for the recipient and even a bigger gift for you.

Marla Sloane Ph.D. is a successful author and speaker. Her Daily Positive Affirmations subscribers have reached world-wide proportions, and her book, "The Masks We Wear and How to Live Without Them" is at the heart of her teleclasses; Live Your Best Life. Marla has also produced, Trilogy of Meditations, for your Mind, Body, and Spirit, which is distributed nationwide, and in Europe. You can visit her web site at: www.marlasloane.com

Tips for a Perfect Valentine's Day

Every year at 14th February all across the world we're celebrating Valentine's Day in the name of love and romance. Many flowers and romantic gifts are exchanged between loved ones showing each other their feelings.

Love is a special feeling and so it must be expressed in an extraordinary way. Valentine's Day is the perfect day to express your feeling and to propose your loved one. Everyone knows that the perfect proposal is convoyed by the perfect gifts. Valentine's Day gifts are most important to express your heartfelt feelings and to make your day memorable in its way.

Receiving a Valentine's Day gift is a magical experience. It makes people smile, happy. The person that offers a gift in this special day wants to show that he cares about the other.

With Valentine's Day not too far off, it's never too soon to start thinking about making special plans for your loved ones. Whether it is a special gift, romantic date, or even a poem you wrote.

On Valentine's Day it is very important to show your love to your partner and make her feel special. Here are some ideas which might help you.

If you want to have a romantic day you should start by cooking a favorite meal, a dinner for two. The color, flavor and smell food play an important part in a successful romantic meal.

Valentine dinners should be special. Choose your sweetie's favorite foods and surprise her with a wonderful romantic meal and a special table set for two. Use your most delicate china and crystal. A few candles, a small bowl of fresh flowers, some heart shape cookies, and a bottle of wine or champagne will complete the atmosphere.

On Valentine's Day decorations speak the heart for you! So all you have to do this Valentine's Day is to make the ambiance irresistibly romantic and set the decorations warm, snug and lovely. Valentine's Day decorations can be done with flowers, ribbons, candies or just with paper and cloth.

No matter which way you do it, the decorations for Valentine's Day should just be perfect and help set the stage for a memorable celebration. The first thing that should be kept in mind before laying your hands on Valentine's Day decorations is that red or shades of red is the color to go for. So make sure you have lots of red, crimson or pink around.

If you want to spend this day at home, you can sprinkle rose petals around the house. Place heart-shape candles around your home to create the right mood.

Buy her flowers. Most preferred in this day are roses, especially the red ones. Red roses can mean a lot of things, they say, everything from courage to respect, but around this time of year they mean one thing - sincere love. Other times of the year, a single red rose will do the trick, but play it safe with a dozen at Valentine's Day.

Hide love letters - write a bunch of love letters and stash them in places your mate typically looks.

I love you is a powerful phrase and saying I love you is a big step in any relationship. Learn the right time to say I love you and give yourself the best chance of hearing "I love you too!"

As a gift you can take her a perfume or even lingerie. But if you take her only lingerie she will think that the only think you want from her is sex. In that case don't forget about flowers or sweets for you sweetheart.

Jewelry is always a favorite for woman. You can take her some diamonds, earrings, or just buy a heart-shaped locket and put a picture of yourself in it. Personalize the locket with your loved one's initials so she'll have something to wear that's hers alone.

Wherever you choose to spend this beautiful day with your partner remember to make her feel special, to create that magical atmosphere, a day that she'll never forget.

Have a wonderful Valentine's Day!

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Valentine's Day for Single Girls

For most people, being alone on Valentine's Day is simply no fun. Women especially find being alone on Valentine's Day to be depressing and lonely. However, just because you are not in a relationship does not mean you can't have a good time on Valentine's Day. With a little creativity, single girls can have a great Valentine's Day that they will remember for years and years.

In fact, they may find they have a better time when they are single on Valentine's Day than they do when they are in a relationship. This article will offer a few tips for how single girls can have a great time on Valentine's Day.

Calling up your other single friends and going dancing is a great way for a single girl to celebrate Valentine's Day in style. You and your friends can get dressed up and head out to a local nightclub together to spend the evening dancing. Many women will actually find they have a better time doing this than going dancing with their boyfriends because their friends are more likely to want to dance all night long.

When they go out with a boyfriend the boyfriend may want to spend more time eating or drinking than he wants to spend on the dance floor. However, single girls who are out on the town often spend hours and hours dancing when they go out and barely take a break all evening.

Another fun idea for single girls on Valentine's Day is to host a movie night at your place. You can invite over all of your single friends and rent a few romantic comedies. Instead of being sad and depressed you and your friends can watch the movies and make fun of all of the couples in the movie.

It may not be the nicest or the most mature thing to do but it will help to prevent you and your friends from feeling depressed during the evening. Or if you prefer you can rent other types of movies such as horror movies or comedies. These will help to keep your mind off the fact that you are single on Valentine's Day.

Single girls on Valentine's Day can also have a great time by organizing a matchmaking game. You can call up all of your single friends and ask each of them to bring a single guy to your house for a get together. You can serve light appetizers and have music playing to keep the guests entertained.

You can also purchase board games designed for use by couples and match up your single couples to play the game. Answering the questions will probably be pretty hard because the couples will not really know each other but it will be a fun way for some of your single friends and the friends of your friends to get to know each other.

Another way for single girls to celebrate Valentine's Day is to simply go out to dinner. Restaurants can be extremely crowded on Valentine's Day because going out to dinner is a very popular idea for couples. However, even single girls have to eat on Valentine's Day. You and your single friends can plan ahead and make reservations for dinner at one of the nicest restaurants in town.

You will likely be surrounded by couples celebrating Valentine's Day but it does not mean you still can't have a good time. Get all dressed up and maybe even organize an outing to a spa beforehand so you and all your friends can get manicures and pedicures before you head out for the evening. This will help to make your dinner together even more fun because you will have a great bonding experience beforehand. While you are out to dinner with your single friends, start out with some great appetizers, order a few great dishes to share and don't forget to finish your meal with an awesome dessert.

Leave the dinners of salad and water to your friends who are trying to impress their dates and feel free to indulge in some great food while you are out with your single friends.

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